Unrealistic Expectations

A growing concern has arisen about unrealistic expectations some followers may have with the real or potential relationships in their life.  Norma D is concerned that this may result in missed opportunities between happy couples or rejection of perfectly good partner candidates.   I have listened to both the married and single male and female followers of the CoH, and am concerned about their relationships with non-Sam normal looking men and women.

People, there is only one Sam Heughan.  I think he has a brother floating around somewhere, but he is not a twin.  Most potential mates do not have the exceptionally pleasing visage of our Sam, so they cannot measure up.

Notice the adoring look given to him by the lady on his right. She is totally ruined for a real relationship!

However, there are many other perfectly good looking men out there if you just look.   I was trolling the internet and here are a few I found:

I’ve got some hat tricks you might like!

I’ll give you the shirt off my back.

I’m looking at you, babe.

If you want to snuggle, I’ll move over a bit!

What do you mean. Norma? You like Bill better?

All acceptable options for real life relationships.   True, it is not quite the same as our Sam, but I wouldn’t kick them out of bed for eating crackers.

Another problem is confusing Sam with the roles he plays.  Sam is Jamie in some people’s eyes (Graham McTavish, 2014), but it is still a character he plays.   Jamie is a  character created by the greatest romance, sci-fi, historical, fiction writer of our day, Herself, Diana Gabaldon.   Now every actor puts a lot of himself/herself in their roles, but no one is really Jamie, King of Men.   Jamie is your book boyfriend. Even Sam realizes that he can only go so far.    If you are having trouble with that reality thing, the Church of Heughanology is here to help with some examples of real vs. not so real:

REAL

NOT REAL

REAL

NOT REAL

 

REAL

NOT REAL BUT SERIOUSLY HOPING HE COULD BE

 There is a difference.

Spice of Life Not So Spicy?

I have a suggestion for those who have been in long term relationships and nothing but Sam will do.   Paste a bunch of Sam’s pictures on the ceiling or put the wedding night key scenes on a loop on the DVR.   Then in those intimate moments when your mind is wandering, you can look over a shoulder or up at the ceiling for inspiration.  Just don’t call them Sam unless that is their real name.   Yes!  Yes!  Yes!    May I have a cigarette?

Now people, reality is what we are about.  We expect others to love us just the way we are,  as Bill Holden loves me.

Can you tell?

We must offer the same option for potential life partners.  Love them they way they are, because lets face it

What we are looking for:

What’s looking for us:

However, over the holidays, beware of Geeks bearing gifts.